For the past few months, I’ve been offering caregiving advice to a friend of mine in Los Angeles. Our parents lived in the same community and were great friends for many years until sickness and frailty put a damper on their social lives. Barbara is now an active caregiver for her mother, the last survivor of the friendly foursome, and she’s facing many of the stresses and frustrations that my sisters and I experienced when we helped our parents. Except now we’re a lot wiser. We know the ins and outs of finding the best team of people to help her care for her mother from afar, ensuring that she is always safe and well cared for. Specifically, I was able to personally recommend;
1) a geriatric care manager who will accompany her mother to doctor appointments when she can’t, do the necessary follow-up (lab tests, fill prescriptions etc), report back to her by email or phone and make frequent home visits to take vitals and confer with home-health aids;
2) a high-integrity resource for home-health care workers who are experienced, trustworthy, reliable, and can work well together as a team;
3) a doctor who is experienced with seniors who will talk to her by phone (you’d be surprised how many physicians won’t take the time to talk with a family member unless they’re in the examining room).
Putting in team in place that combines medical and personal care support has made a world of difference to Barbara, who must balance her caregiving responsibilities with family time and a full time job; and her mother, who feels confident that she can safely live in her own home.
It’s very gratifying to be able to help families figure all of this out and it’s why I started Seniority Matters. I wanted to create a framework for replicating how we help our close friends (and friends of friends) for a larger circle of people in south Florida, the communities where I have lived and worked for more than two decades.
All of the research I’ve done to find the best people to help you or a loved one can be found in our searchable directory. It’s free to use anytime, anywhere and should be a great starting point for your own research. You can also exchange references and referrals with others on our discussion boards found in the Living Room. And you can use our private services for one-to-one assistance, which can be helpful when you don’t have the time or inclination to do your own research or just don’t know where to start. However you use Seniority Matters, know that we are here to help you.
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